The honest truth about social media

We can all agree that at some point we have been scrolling through social media and have seen something that makes us feel negative emotions towards ourselves. We start to compare our lives to other people’s false reality. Lately, I have realised that this happens more often than I thought I was aware of. Every time we scroll through social media we are subconsciously making assumptions, comparing ourselves and ultimately end up feeling bad about ourselves. It’s so important to be aware of how these things make you feel, even if you don’t realise it’s having an impact.


Scrolling through timelines and seeing what people are up to has become such a part of our daily routine, it’s no wonder the line between social media and reality becomes blurry. It is so easy to feel down about your situation when it looks like so many other people are having the time of their life. The truth is, they aren’t. We all post the best of ourselves on social media. Instagram is like a photo album, you want to look through and see lots of nice happy memories. Just because we don’t see other people’s struggles does not mean they are not there.


When you feel down about something or you are going through a difficult time you can start to ask yourself why your life isn’t like the people you see on social media. Life will always have ups and downs, nobody is happy all the time, we are human and we have emotions.


We live in an era surrounded by social media influencers. I love that there has been a shift away from celebrities and we can now follow the lives of relatable people. When I was younger I really envied those who had beauty rooms and drawers upon drawers of makeup. I now wonder what they do with all of the makeup and expiry dates etc. The reality is we consume information from people who have been paid to influence us to buy things. Having studied their ‘perfect’ social media channels and we think if we buy these things we can be as happy as they are. You fall into a trap because there will always be something new and purchasing these things only gives you a temporary happy feeling.

There’s nothing wrong with social media itself. It has become a new form of marketing. We need to remember that sometimes we are seeing adverts rather than real lives.


As I have gotten older, my thoughts about money and happiness and have changed a lot. I used to aspire to have the latest things, I now realise that material items cannot make you happy. It is so easy to get caught up in the world of social media. Most of us earn about an average wage, if you aren’t living at home you have little disposable income. Why do we spend this small amount of money on things to be like those that earn way more and were most likely gifted it anyway? As the saying goes ‘don’t go broke trying to look rich’.


If I asked you ‘what do you want?’ would you have an answer? Is it something you truly want for yourself or just something that someone else has? As an example, you see someone online with a really nice car and you think I want that too. So you save to purchase this car and when you go to test drive it you realise you don’t like the seating position or how the car feels to drive. I believe you should set yourself goals, work your ass off and reward yourself for it. Make your reward something that you actually love and want for yourself. Don’t choose something just because of the perceived image or lifestyle you think it will bring you.



Be aware of your reasons for wanting/buying things. Don’t spend your hard earned money on something that it purely hyped up. Always remember that most social media platforms are a highlight reel. We want to feel good about our own portrayal, we don’t post the bad stuff. Life is not an easy road and things aren’t straightforward. Happiness comes from within, it is not based on what you have or how others perceive you.



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