I think I speak for the majority of us when I say that blogging is our hobby. We do it because we enjoy creating content and interacting with the blogging community. Our spare time is devoted to taking photos and writing posts of which do take alot of time to do. Recently I have noticed bloggers calling others out on things they feel they are doing wrong. As a witness, I feel the statements they are making aren’t constructive and are more of a personal dig. There is a way of making someone aware of something without it coming across rude. I am going to discuss what I have witnessed and how the situation could be avoided. Also, what you can do if you find yourself in a similar situation.
“Throwing shade isn’t gonna make you shine“
I 100% agree with giving people constructive criticism, we don’t know if we are doing something wrong or could do it better unless we are told sometimes. With that said, when you put alot of time and passion into creating something, it can really knock your confidence if someone says something negative or rude about it. Especially if this feedback was not asked for. This is something I have noticed within the community recently. It is fine to give constructive criticism but do it in a nice way, it’s not difficult to do.
“The way people treat you is a statement of who they are as a human being. It’s not a statement about you”
I have seen this happen most with those whom have a sizeable following. If you have a larger following than someone, since when did that give you the right to call people out for something. Just because you have a large amount of followers, that doesn’t mean that you do everything perfectly. If you want to make a generic statement about blogger do’s and dont’s, fine. What I keep seeing is bloggers posting screenshots of others and calling them out in a rude way. I feel that this can be extremely humiliating, especially as some bloggers are really young. In one instance this then led to others jumping on the bandwagon and attacking a particular person.
“Your smile is your logo, your personality is your business card, how you leave others feeling after an experience with you is your trademark” -Jay Danzie
If someone has done something that you believe could be done differently or doesn’t comply with legislation. MESSAGE THEM IN PRIVATE, politely telling them what you think is wrong or could be done better and why. There is no need to be calling them out on your social media and you definitely do not need to be rude about it. Social media has created a culture of everyone ‘having a right to their own opinion and speaking their thoughts’. Which is totally fine, but I don’t think some people would act the same way if they were having these conversations face to face. I struggle to believe these people would bring up any of these things to begin with. You wouldn’t go up to someone in the street and say something negative to them. So why is it people feel it’s okay to do online?
“Blowing out someone else’s candle won’t make yours shine brighter“
Are you witnessing this on your social media? Remember you are not obliged to follow people. If you don’t like their content unfollow them. If you find yourself in a situation like this, ask the person to message you in private to discuss the issue. Listen to what they are saying, is this an actual problem or are they creating one. If it is something minor that you didn’t know about, thank the person for making you aware. But if you feel what the person is suggesting is wrong, explain that you have taken their thoughts on board and give your reasons as to why you don’t agree.
Overall, I feel that there is no need to be rude to other people who are putting time and effort into what is their hobby and are doing what they enjoy. We are all fighting our own battles, we don’t need people unnecessarily adding to this. Before you make a comment to someone have a think, would you say it to their face or how would you feel if someone said it to you?
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What are your thoughts on this topic? Have you been involved in something like this or witnessed it?