Why I Don’t Use Facebook

HAYLEYXMARTIN | WHY I DON'T USE FACEBOOK

At the beginning of 2016, I decided to remove Facebook. I was only going to temporarily deactivate it at first just to have a break. But after a little while of not using it, I forgot about it. My main reasons for removing my profile were: I was wasting too much time aimlessly scrolling through my timeline and reading lots of unnecessary information. I have met so many people on social media from the blogging community who are so nice and distribute helpful information. I have only used Facebook for a personal account. I may have one for my blog one day, but in this post I am only talking about Facebook from a personal account perspective.

My Facebook was full of people that I used to know or friends of friends, whom I would never actually speak to or see in real life. So what was the point in reading all of their information on Facebook? It’s the constant updates, baby pictures, ‘happy couples’ and those seeking attention. I personally feel this information is toxic, what purpose does it serve? What value is it adding to my life and why am I spending my time reading it?

hayleyxmartin | Some people aren't all that they 'post' to be

As social media has evolved it has come to light how things aren’t always what they seem. Users paint pictures in order to seem like their life is better than it actually is. This is incredibly harmful to those consuming this information. My favourite quote in relation to social media is: ‘Don’t compare your behind the scenes to someone else’s highlight reel’. People may try to portray a perfect life on social media but as the reader it’s so important to remember that it isn’t always a true reflection, so don’t feel bad if everything isn’t going as well in your life.

Studies have been conducted on the effects of social media and how it can contribute to mental health problems:

“Why would heavy social media usage cause depression? The exposure to “highly idealized representations of peers on social media elicits feelings of envy and the distorted belief that others lead happier, more successful lives,” says the study.” – Amit Chowdhry, forbes.com

We all have good and bad moments. This all links to why I enjoy blogging – I talk about everything; the ups and downs and not just how I want my life to be perceived.

hayleyxmartin | don't compare your behind the scenes to somebody else's highlight reel

At this point in time I only use Instagram & Whatsapp as social media platforms for my personal use. I believe that if people want to be in your life they should make time to see you in person. Of course it isn’t a one way street, If i want to catch up with someone I ask them to go for a coffee. I don’t need to be constantly tagged online and recently peoples extensive updates to feel included. I understand that social media helps us keep in contact with people whilst managing busy lifestyles. But when people post everything online, what else is left to discuss in person?

I believe when it comes to mental health, happiness and purely the consumption of information that adds value to your life. You need to be the one to make the decision to remove a social media platform if it’s not contributing to your happiness. Don’t worry about feeling excluded, what are you really missing out on? Don’t be caught in the trap of an illusion that is making you feel negatively about your life. I am discussing Facebook throughout this post because it was the platform I didn’t to remove myself from. If you enjoy using it, great! This is just my opinion.

 

I hope you enjoyed reading this and I would love to know your thoughts on this topic:

Do you believe social media can negatively affect mental health?

Which platform do you least enjoy using – or have you removed any?

 

 

 

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14 Comments

    • hayleyxmartin
      hayleyxmartin
      July 15, 2017 / 8:44 pm

      I completely agree with you Courtney!! But hey it’s one less app I’m wasting time on haha – thanks for reading xx

  1. July 16, 2017 / 9:03 pm

    I like this post a lot. I’ve always thought about leaving Facebook but never end up doing it. I always compare myself to everyone and put pressure on myself to go on expensive vacations and have cute babies- it’s really turning into a toxic addiction. Thanks for sharing your views!

    • hayleyxmartin
      hayleyxmartin
      July 16, 2017 / 10:10 pm

      I have thought about this for quite a while and I am so happy how this post comes across. I am really glad you feel the same way. I promise once you haven’t used it for a while – you do forget! I find I then use my other networks wisely, for example, on Instagram, I tend not to look at content that is going to irritate me or is unrealistic xx

  2. July 20, 2017 / 5:29 pm

    Loved the fact that you brought up not comparing behind the scenes to someone’s highlight reel. It’s true, I use to do that when I was younger but learned over time it’s not that way in reality! Yes social media does contribute to mental health issues in my opinion for both the reader and sender. Senders try to portray a lifestyle that’s not all rainbow and sunshines and the receiver assumes it is! Good post with strong facts I really enjoyed this !

    • hayleyxmartin
      hayleyxmartin
      July 20, 2017 / 7:36 pm

      Thank you so much Shauna! xx

  3. July 20, 2017 / 5:40 pm

    I like this a lot. I often find myself scrolling through my social media accounts and I am just completely over it. I prefer to hangout with friends and workout with my family members. I don’t use it a lot, especially since I’m starting to work more. I try to balance social media with time spent face to face

    • hayleyxmartin
      hayleyxmartin
      July 20, 2017 / 6:21 pm

      It’s so much nicer just being with people in person. Things can be taken the wrong way online – even texting!

  4. July 20, 2017 / 5:41 pm

    I’ve definitely stopped posting as much on Facebook as I used to, but I do enjoy being in the various style groups I’m in. I’ve met a lot of people from other parts of the world and have made friends that I otherwise wouldn’t have made, which has really been nice! But I’ve also unfollowed some old acquaintances who post the sort of toxic highlights that turned you off Facebook, so I can definitely see where you’re coming from!

    xx
    Emily
    emilyhallock.blogspot.com

    • hayleyxmartin
      hayleyxmartin
      July 20, 2017 / 7:21 pm

      I definitely agree Emily. I love that we can meet and talk to people from all around the world! xx

  5. July 20, 2017 / 5:44 pm

    Such a real post, I tend to have huge breaks from facebook and barely check up on it anymore. I have such positives vibes from other bloggers on twitter anyway!!

    Sarah | sazsinclair.com xx

    • hayleyxmartin
      hayleyxmartin
      July 20, 2017 / 7:30 pm

      I love the blogging community – I have only been using twitter for a month and it adds so much more value that Facebook ever did xx

  6. Kate
    July 20, 2017 / 9:06 pm

    This is a great post! I also deactivated my Facebook account a few weeks ago and I can honestly say its SUPER liberating. That quote is so accurate as well, social media is such rubbish, there’s so much that social media portrays as accurate but doesn’t actually reflect!

    Kate x
    http://www.findingkate.co

    • hayleyxmartin
      hayleyxmartin
      July 22, 2017 / 6:27 pm

      Definitely Kate! it’s so important not to get caught up in it and remember that it isn’t an accurate representation of real life xx

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